Kalynn Martell // Senior Communications Major // FIRs // Married
College is for lovers. We are creating ourselves, discovering our talents and interests, and the future is just starting to open up.
With that in mind, we should embrace the fact that love is part of that equation. While not every student is destined to marry, or even date, in college, doing so should not be shocking or disturbing.
That is not to say everyone should get married while attending college. Young adults’ maturity levels vary greatly between ages 18 and 22. We all have different interests, different levels of independence, and different personal goals.
However, when two people meet who share those interests, independence, and goals and then fall in love, should they not choose to walk their paths together?
College is a time of great temptation, even attending a Christian university. Being married eliminates the temptation to have premarital sex and fights other temptations by continually having an accountability partner. 1 Corinthians 7:2 says, “because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman, her husband.”
Finally, this university makes a great environment to be married. We have housing specifically for those of us who have chosen to get married—attending this school could otherwise be impossible without low-priced housing. Also, we get a pretty hefty discount on tuition as long as we both are attending.
While we battle worldly influences and desires, we should welcome marriage with open arms. Marriage should not be taken lightly, but choosing marriage can be the best decision of your undergraduate career. It was for me!
Lizzy Fonden // Senior Communications Major // Commuter // Single
In the two short years I’ve been at Northwest University, I have witnessed at least ten public engagements. The question is not if you’re getting engaged, it’s when. With this mentality floating around campus, many men and women feel pressured to speed up decisions when it comes to dating. Most students, I should hope, are here to gain a career that will provide for them in the future. Involving a relationship may lower once important priorities. Date nights start to take over much needed nights of studying, and grades may reflect badly.
Personally, I do not see anything wrong with dating while pursuing a college degree. However, college is a place where we as individuals should be building a stable life for ourselves. We are figuring out who we are and what we want. Listening to God is vital, and if it is meant to happen, it will!
Kat Bagwell, a business major at NU, states she isn’t against dating in college; however, she doesn’t agree with why most people do it. “A lot of people do it because everyone else is doing it or because of the ring by spring expectation,” Bagwell noted. “If you’re going to date someone, you need the emotional maturity to handle a relationship.”
Single or dating, most people agree with her. Dating in its very essence isn’t sinful by any means. But it is always important to draw the line somewhere. I believe it’s safe to say that 99.9% of us students will be in thousands of dollars of debt by the time we graduate. The business world is tough, and it’s important to stay focused to be successful. And who doesn’t want to be successful?